Adoption Advocacy Forums

July 31, 2010, 10:10 am

Thank you again to those of you who actually understand what I'm talking about. Chevyjewel, if you would read more carefully and without preconceived judgments, you'd see that Baby V was not removed from the respite home, but that CASA did go to reiterate that she needs to follow my written...

July 31, 2010, 10:07 am

Not every agency has the same rules on that and considering how long it takes to get everything done and approved, you could be half way through a year before you're finished. it can also depend on what info they find when you do your home study. If his death didn't cause a huge upheaval in your...

July 31, 2010, 9:07 am

We have permanent and full custody and guardianship of our two youngest daughters. In our jurisdiction - this is the legal equivalent to adoption except visitation is written in - but it is at our discretion, and at our supervision. For US, and our children, it was the best and only option for...

July 31, 2010, 9:01 am

I guess I found a sense of "fault" or who is going to finally "WIN" the baby from your post -- it should have NOTHING to do with which parent WINS in a situation like this -- it should be about the absolute best interest of the baby first and foremost. Adoption should NOT be...

July 31, 2010, 8:23 am

It also depends on if it's an adoption in the current legal process or if it's an adoption that's already been completed. Most people don't want to 'get involved' in addressing issues in adoptions already completed - but they *might* if the adoption is currently in process.

July 31, 2010, 7:57 am

I highly doubt if they will even look at it..... We video taped our FSs reaction to his father when he came to pick him up. Visits are on the weekend so of course NO ONE saw how bad it affected little man...He would cry and shake and beg to not have to go... We told our cw about the tape and he...

July 31, 2010, 7:40 am

I do respite here in Oregon (used to do it in FL also) and I had to notify my worker that I had the kids - when they got here (the fp's brought them to us and picked them up). Since I most often do toddlers and infants - I ask for written documentation of Dr.'s, cw's, gal's numbers and any others...

July 31, 2010, 7:02 am

Sarahdaisy, it's just sad but true that the $$$$$$ is the overriding factor in our foster care system. There is no incentive for the agencies who have control of our foster kids to move them quickly through the system. In our state (Illinois), the budget for foster children is $1.3 BILLION. We...

July 31, 2010, 6:40 am

I wonder this all the time. F is a dream - she is not perfect, but doesn't display a fraction if the "issues" you may think her history would leave her with. Though of course I want her to be happy, sometimes i find myself wishing she'd show some sadness about her past now and again so...

July 31, 2010, 6:32 am

Whooo. I can see the no sleep part! I have 3 under 3 a year apart, so it's fun times, trying times and never a dull moment.

July 31, 2010, 6:04 am

granny, I am with you 100%. Maybe we should print all these complaints and send them to NBC. Nothing might be done, but its worth a shot. Maybe if we all send them, at least there will be more awareness on how this system is failing children in every state. What do you think?

July 31, 2010, 5:55 am

Jessica, the system everywhere is very frustrating. I too thought it was for the better of the children. I put in for about 28 kids in the last 6 months to adopt (not babies either, school age sibling groups, etc) and didn't even get an answer or nothing. Most workers want to their foster parents...

July 31, 2010, 5:48 am

Ire, I know what your going through. My fd left the other day. It is hard but we were having the same problems only she was doing it to her little brother and sister. There is such a difference and she has only been gone a few days. She wrote me letters and begged me to stay too, but I just couldnt...

July 31, 2010, 5:14 am

lol. okay, i was very tired yesterday. I cant even understand this last post. LOL. JUst forget about it though we got it worked out. I would never recommend posting while your super tired. HA! have a good one everyone!!

July 31, 2010, 4:34 am

That is wonderful news! Congrats to you and your son!